As you guys know i posted on here about a week, someone reccomended a counsler. I was being 100% truthful too. Anyway my conditions have worsened. I work full time, so does my brother, and my mom is now home from the nursing home. Neither of us are able to commit to taking care of her 24/7 around the clock.
My uncle has moved in with us, her brother whos quite a heavy drinker but an all around nice guy. He never graduated and quit his job after 5 years so now this is his job of taking care of her. I originally had planned to do this job of taking care of my mom for a few years a year at least. But soon after now a week since she has been home i realize just how much more difficult it is.
Maybe some people are able to clean crappy diapers or pissy diapers, sheets that sorts of matters but i am not one of those types. My uncle does it, in fact today we were changing her and going to put her into the tub and she has like 2 pounds of sh*t on her which ended up in the tub. It was way more then i could handle and this is why i decided i cant be her long time care giver.
I told my uncle this, and my brother, both are no extremely mad at me as ive explained we should have a CNA come in for 5 hours each day to help out and take my place. I would even pay for part of the job, and the $200 i was being paid to do my share could be used to help this new person instead.
BUt heres the problem, now my brother says if im not helping out my mom then i need to pay rent or get out. When im full entertaining the idea of helping pay for a CNA to come in. I am unable to do this job because i already am working ful time for the summer, in the fall ill be back in school for my final year before graduate school when ill have no time to be her care giver. Guys I need some advice if you have some. DO i pay some rent, or pay the full cost of a CNA or do i just move out and try to get my own life straigtened out. My brother said he wont even help pay the cost of a CNA as it should be my responsiblity to take care of mom since i made that decision a while ago, im sorry to bother you guys with this question, my dad passed away 4 month ago, and my mom cant walk or talk because of several stroke.s Further more my brother wont even pay for part of the CNA cost which leaves me dumbfounded on top of it all he wants me to pay rent.
I am unable to undestand this, my uncle and him are basically ganging up on me, I love my mom but doing things like wiping her behind, and bathing her are out of my league regardless of what some people are capable of doing, we are not all the same. Can you all try and give me some advice please, id appreciate it thanks
My uncle has moved in with us, her brother whos quite a heavy drinker but an all around nice guy. He never graduated and quit his job after 5 years so now this is his job of taking care of her. I originally had planned to do this job of taking care of my mom for a few years a year at least. But soon after now a week since she has been home i realize just how much more difficult it is.
Maybe some people are able to clean crappy diapers or pissy diapers, sheets that sorts of matters but i am not one of those types. My uncle does it, in fact today we were changing her and going to put her into the tub and she has like 2 pounds of sh*t on her which ended up in the tub. It was way more then i could handle and this is why i decided i cant be her long time care giver.
I told my uncle this, and my brother, both are no extremely mad at me as ive explained we should have a CNA come in for 5 hours each day to help out and take my place. I would even pay for part of the job, and the $200 i was being paid to do my share could be used to help this new person instead.
BUt heres the problem, now my brother says if im not helping out my mom then i need to pay rent or get out. When im full entertaining the idea of helping pay for a CNA to come in. I am unable to do this job because i already am working ful time for the summer, in the fall ill be back in school for my final year before graduate school when ill have no time to be her care giver. Guys I need some advice if you have some. DO i pay some rent, or pay the full cost of a CNA or do i just move out and try to get my own life straigtened out. My brother said he wont even help pay the cost of a CNA as it should be my responsiblity to take care of mom since i made that decision a while ago, im sorry to bother you guys with this question, my dad passed away 4 month ago, and my mom cant walk or talk because of several stroke.s Further more my brother wont even pay for part of the CNA cost which leaves me dumbfounded on top of it all he wants me to pay rent.
I am unable to undestand this, my uncle and him are basically ganging up on me, I love my mom but doing things like wiping her behind, and bathing her are out of my league regardless of what some people are capable of doing, we are not all the same. Can you all try and give me some advice please, id appreciate it thanks
