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Just calm down. I know what it is like to be very stressed out all the time, as I have had a problem with it for most of my life. If you don't learn to put it all in perspective the little things in life (and this is one of them!) will eventually destroy you. I know, because I have let them do that to me too often. Honestly, it's $600. That's not the end of the world, and is still $400 cheaper than you thought you would pay. What you need to do is see if the court will let you make payments due to financial hardship. They usually do. Don't burn bridges with your family. Later on in life, you WILL need them. Trust me on this one, there are very few people in life you can count on. Family is always there for you as few relationships are closer than blood. People will sh*t on you no matter what you do, and your family is I am sure not perfect. No one's is. Your brother, like you, is still young and making the mistakes we all make when we are trying to define ourselves as adults. I am sure you will make a mistake that impacts him somewhere down the line. However, the best relationships in life are based on trust and forgiveness. This is not to say you trust everyone, but you should trust those who mean you no harm even if they hurt you by their own stupidity. I am sure he did not mean to get pulled over, and honestly you should not have had him drive either. Both of you made a mistake, and both of you are paying a price. Don't make it worse than it is. You are not in jail, physically harmed, or out personal property. It's a small fine. Pay it and live with it. Lesson learned. Make peace with your brother and learn to love others despite their faults.
I agree with 85 Cutlass completely. Take it from someone who's been in MUCH worse situations, it ain't that bad. And yes by the way, the courts will just about always allow you to arrange payments with them. But you have to take it upon yourself to set it up. Call the clerk of courts and figure out what you need to do, usually they can take care of you without having to go in front of a judge. I've had payments set up as low as $25 a month before. As far as the attorney fee I can't really help you, every attorney is different but in any case whatever you didn't have to pay up front should be payable in a few payments.
As for much worse, I'll tell you mine. I was in a car accident where someone pulled out in front of me. I smashed my knee under the dash of my car, but the cops did not assign blame to either party, so it was considered 50/50 for liability. Fortunately I got a lawyer (before I even got a doctor), but unfortunately I did not get enough money to have the needed surgery (I wound up with $6500 after the med bills were paid). The surgery is $15,000 for a torn Medial Meniscus, and I maybe make $25,000 a year. So now, I can't run or jog because it causes me pain. I have to diet and exercise because if I gain weight it puts pressure on the knee. I can't go wait tables where I would make more money because of my knee. I am lucky that most of the time I can walk with no pain, but it keeps me from doing some things I would like to do. And that's just one of the problems I deal with in normal life. So trust me, $600 is nothing. I would be happy if all my problems could be solved for such a small amount of money.
Dont take your bro to court, it probably will get thrown out or they wont take the case because its too little money. Dont worry about how your life is going now. Eventually all of your hard work and suffering will all be worth it. You will get all of your debts paid eventually, and later on in life you will not need help from anyone else with money. Just keep doing what your doing and dont make any mistakes like this one and you will be fine.
By the way, if you knew all of the sh*t I am going through right now you wouldnt even think twice about complaining about what happened with you. Your situation could be much worse.
By the way, if you knew all of the sh*t I am going through right now you wouldnt even think twice about complaining about what happened with you. Your situation could be much worse.
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