what to do

[vladj]

ok well i have a beautiful 9 month old daughter i love very much named Shelby. but here is the problem my fiance has a sister with apert syndrome. at first when Shelby was born i wasn't to concerned about her seeing her even thou she did some stuff like ignore my opinion as a father and sh*t like that. but yesterday she said that she is gonna kill my baby. my fiance her sister almost killed her at that point. i held myself back because i realize shes retarded and Shelby needs a father there and not one in jail.

now i told my fiance i don't want her to ever see Shelby again since i don't need to worry about this and i really don't want the retard telling Shelby shes gonna kill her or her mother when shes older and can understand whats going on. but here is the problem, my fiance's mother is all pissed about me not wanting the retard to see her. My fiance feels bad because she is retarded. But thats still no excuse for saying sh*t like this. Also this isnt the first time it happened that she said sh*t that i just wanted to punch her out.

if it was up to me id just cut her off and will never let her see my daughter but since my fiance is her mother and feels bad about it and still let the retard see her i don't know what to do.

what would you guys do in my place?

thanks;

vlad

 

[SLICK79WGN]

that is ****ed up and I see your point, but to keep the peace why cant she see her with like supervised visits. but IMO is your wife does not put up too much of a fight I say cut her off I have a 16 month old daughter and a 6 year old son, and I would kill for them with out a doubt in my mind and I am the kind of person that would never be able to let something like that go even if she is retarded!!! :evil:

 

[TexasT]

Threats of physical violence(and death in this case) should not be taken lightly. I know my children would be much older the next time they visited an individual that threatened to kill them no matter the mental capacity.

 

[zjchevy1]

First off, could we just refer to your sister in law as "Special Needs"?

I understand where your coming from. My little brother was born with Cerebal Palsy, and at 14 he was also diagnosed with Muscular Dystrophy. I spent that vast majority of my life around "Special" people, and when my bro was in the Special Olympics, I coached a lot of these people.

I've also been the lucky guy to deal with the bad ones also. There was a guy who was quite slow living in a group home ran by my parents friends. He got to the point where they (the state) said this guy was sufficient to live on his own. He had a small apartment right off the main drag, and really liked to stand in the front window while playing with himself. F'n disgusting. Guy ended up getting locked up in a mental ward I believe. Another one is a guy who works at the grocery store with my mom. He's got an attitude problem, and thinks he's the man. He's called customers names using foul language, been verbally harrasing other female employees, and usually has to be set straight once a week. The problem with this guy is he has no disipline at home.

My point is special needs or not, no special treatment should come to you whatsoever (except the parking spots at the mall). Your sister in law is going to threaten the life of your child, you have the right to make any decision that regards the safety of your childs life. As far as your mother in law goes, sounds like she's a little special herself... If you can get your wife over the family hurdle she'll also understand. Threats of physical harm are not to be taken lightly by anyone at all.

I dont have any kids that I know of, but if I did i would go to great leaps and bounds to protect them, and take out anyone who tried to harm them.