By engine family I mean exactly that. if it is a V6, is it a Chevy (200,229, 4.3) or Buick (3.8 or 4.1)? If it's a V8, is it a Chevy (267, 305, or any swapped in variant of the same), Pontiac (265 or 301) or Oldsmobile (260,307 gas, 350 Diesel)? If converting, the harness is the same except for the length and position of the wires as it relates to the accessory, alternator and starter positions in the car. Get a harness that matches the type of engine your car has and it will go in pretty easily (A 267 or 305 harness is what you would use in a Chevy 350 or 400 swapped car, Pontiac with Pontiac, Olds with Olds, etc.). Diesel harnesses will not easily work in gas cars, and vice versa. This is because the ignition circuits are fundamentally different between the two types of engines. However, diesels are very rare today as they did not survive in large numbers. Also, 4.3 V6 cars use TBI fuel injection and the harness will not work on any other stock engine in these cars.
Beyond this, I can't break it down any simpler for you. If you don't understand, it is advisable that you do not attempt this on your own and that you either seek out a knowledgeable person to assist you, or that you take it to a reputable shop to do the work for you.