Spent all day yesterday at the hospice with my mother in law. Went home for dinner and got THE CALL from my brother in law that she passed. By the time we got there his ( total greedy b-tch of a ) wife had yanked off the M.I.L.s valuable rings . My wife has 4 sisters and this B thinks she’s entitled to what ever the F she wants. When the MIL and her 2nd husband were put in a home 16 months ago the B conned her out of they’re car and paying to have they’re home sewage system dug up and replaced. It infuriates me so much to see it happening and not saying anything . I’m coaching my wife at home to grow a pair and rip into the B like I would if it was my family. My wife has POA for her mom and step-dad, and the wills were just redone. Everything for now goes to the step-dad until he passes, then it’s a 10 way split between his 4 kids ( who haven’t come to see them in YEARS ) and my MILs 6. LET THE FUN BEGIN!!!
Let the fun begin !!
- Thread starter Doug Chahoy
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Man, that sucks.. Sorry you're going thru that.
Money does weird things to people.
And yeah, tell your wife that if she lets this go, the B is just going to keep going further and further...
-Gonz
Money does weird things to people.
And yeah, tell your wife that if she lets this go, the B is just going to keep going further and further...
-Gonz
Sorry to hear man. Did she have a will? Do you know who is the executor of her estate? Best advice I've heard when going through this is get a lawyer to help with everything. Current and past bills, taxes, credit cards, retirement acct and anything else can be best sorted by the lawyer and split evenly. I'm no expert but seems like a good way to make sure everything is done right and settled fairly.
Sorry again to hear about your MIL.
Sorry again to hear about your MIL.
As I said above, the wills were just redone with the lawyer. My wife not only has POA for both she’s also one of two executers ( with her greedy brother ) of the wills. The stepdad is staying in the carehome till his time comes with my wife ( using they’re accounts) paying for all his care and expenses. These people don’t realize he could last another ten years. And the BIL and his B are grabbing anything of value they can get they’re greedy hands on.
The wills are written for a 10 way split of whatever is left after the stepdad passes. My wife has 2 sisters that HAVE BALLS when they hear about this, they won’t let it slide. My BTL is the family LOSER, he had a good job at the biggest hospital chain in Pgh for about 20 years. Quit to go to a smaller hospital chain. Took and blew his retirement package then got fired from the new job for failing a drug test. Neither him nor his B have had a good job since. Over the years they’ve continually gone to the MIL and the divorced FIL for no repay bailouts crying poor mouth.
Sorry to hear. Depending on the state, everything passes over to the husband in most instances. While some things may go to probate, it's just a formality. A PITA formality, but one just the same. If they have joint accounts, everything now belongs to whoever is left on the account as they have held "present interest" in such accounts and with the slimmest of exceptions, are not subject to probate and can be transferred immediately. Any life insurance policies with POD to another entity other than her estate is not subject to probate, either and can be remitted immediately.
Still, check with probate laws in your state for more info. Get that will down to the county courthouse and get it filed. Also get the paperwork rolling to open the probate, if applicable, and get the executor/personal representative legally named by the probate judge. For the love of Christ, whoever is executor of her estate it is IMPERATIVE to lock down and secure her possessions. In fact, it's their duty to do so. I agree, whoever is the executor can indeed file a police report as if she had stole from the executor. Because she is in fact, stealing from the estate. As executor, or personal representative, you have a fiduciary duty to the estate. Technically, the executor could be on the hook for missing money/items. Hardly followed up on when it's family, but it's still something that needs to be concerned with.
You also need to get an inventory and approx. street value of everything she owned. Depends on how detailed you want to get it, but things like jewelry, money, cars, or anything in her name only needs to be inventoried. Stuff like purses, alarm clocks, clothes, general non-collectible paperback books, etc., can be lumped into what they call residuary and that is usually divided between the primary heirs with equal shares. Make sure to check to see if there is a residuary clause in the will. If not, the residuaries can suck getting those doled out.
People's true colors come out in these trying times. And we're in the last throes of trying to close out my MIL's estate through probate. I've learned a lot of things about it that I shouldn't have the need to know. If you're not an attorney who does probate stuff, you should never get good at it.
Still, check with probate laws in your state for more info. Get that will down to the county courthouse and get it filed. Also get the paperwork rolling to open the probate, if applicable, and get the executor/personal representative legally named by the probate judge. For the love of Christ, whoever is executor of her estate it is IMPERATIVE to lock down and secure her possessions. In fact, it's their duty to do so. I agree, whoever is the executor can indeed file a police report as if she had stole from the executor. Because she is in fact, stealing from the estate. As executor, or personal representative, you have a fiduciary duty to the estate. Technically, the executor could be on the hook for missing money/items. Hardly followed up on when it's family, but it's still something that needs to be concerned with.
You also need to get an inventory and approx. street value of everything she owned. Depends on how detailed you want to get it, but things like jewelry, money, cars, or anything in her name only needs to be inventoried. Stuff like purses, alarm clocks, clothes, general non-collectible paperback books, etc., can be lumped into what they call residuary and that is usually divided between the primary heirs with equal shares. Make sure to check to see if there is a residuary clause in the will. If not, the residuaries can suck getting those doled out.
People's true colors come out in these trying times. And we're in the last throes of trying to close out my MIL's estate through probate. I've learned a lot of things about it that I shouldn't have the need to know. If you're not an attorney who does probate stuff, you should never get good at it.
