Marriage

[1986montecarlols]

I dont really understand marriage these days, I know this is odd posting this, but I see many of my friends getting married or already have gotten married. Yet I see them struggling everyday with bills, etc. I guess I really dont get it.

Why is it people constrain themselves of diong what they want and marry. Thus they buy a house, pop out kids, and work all life then they retire etc. How boring is that. I guess im a bit odd. I see life far differently. Wouldnt it be more advantagious to screw a lot of girls, study the world, do a lot of traveling etc. How can one be so naive to get married and settle down in one spot their whole life.

I bring this topic up becuase of my best friend who recently married, I also dont get along with his wife. This guy doesnt wanna do anything anymore and i mena anything, the things he does to always revolves around his fat wife who had everything given to her, her entire life lol. She comes from a rich family by the way. My other friend, today wanted to do something, but his fiance said no you cant, we need to do this around the house today, its like, **** off b*tch if he wants to do this he can do it. Its his freewill. I guess what im saying is, why do people marry anyway, to give up their absolute freedom, giving up freedom to travel, etc. Im am utterly confused. My other good friends feel the same that I still hang out with.

88 cutty brogham lol, sh*t man I give you respect for your life and stuff. you didnt get married or nothing. Yet you say your bored and lonely. Why is that so, sh*t your free to do what ever you want. You dont have to have some b*tch always want her way, you to do things for her, etc. lol I am destined to become a bachelor my whole life. Yet at 23 people always says so burt when are you going to lose that V card, which pisses me off. I personally have no interest in setting down. I guess this is just a major rant, feel free to post if youd like. 😳

 

[srercrcr]

It's good you're not interested in settling down. You're not ready.

 

[1986montecarlols]

Your just

another guy like the rest, what really is so great about being married is what I am asking I guess. I dont see any benefits in it?

You lose freedom
you lose support from yourself
your stuck in one place and one job
you cant do what you want when you want
you take on more useless and unneeded responsibilities
Ill never get it really?

 

[TexasT]

I have to agree, you are not ready to settle down. You may never be.

I personally have been married to my lovely wife for fifteen years and wouldn't trade it for anything else. We have four beautiful children. They are the next generation and I teach them what I think they need to know.

This may be part of why the country is in such trouble as there are quite a few marriages that fail, leaving quite a large number of children without direction.

As far as getting married, you'll know when the time is right. It may never come. I never thought I'd get married either and I run into old friends all the time that can't believe I am married.

 

[crappycutlass]

ALRIGHTY.. let me set you straight here...

"You lose freedom "- only if you let a woman let you..

"you lose support from yourself " - but you gain support from someone else..

"your stuck in one place and one job " - not even close to true.. im 25 married and moving 5000km's away... if you have a loving supporting wife she will follow you wherever you go.

"you cant do what you want when you want"- same as above.. i do whatever i want..

"you take on more useless and unneeded responsibilities "- yes and no... if i didnt have my wife i wouldnt have half the sh*t i have now.. sure i have to cut grass.. but i also have a house... single..i would have a small apartment..


here's what it comes down to... most men get p*ssy whipped and become p*ssy's themselves... a yes man to their wife... as long as you stay in control wear the pants and don't LET them control you.. your good to go..

the #1 mistake you can make is giving them control over you.. I have lost friends to women....I have seen many men do that..I have learned from their fatal mistakes.

when you find someone that dosen't try to take over your life... shes a keeper.

 

[1986montecarlols]

I geuss

thats the problem. I see most of my friends having. They become p*ssy whipped, I love my best friend who says oh no im not but yet he doesnt realize he really is. lol

 

[crappycutlass]

yea.. i don't know why guys get like that... maybe they are afraid they can't get anybody else/better?...

my wife knew from the beginning that if she dosen't like what i do or how i do it... then there's the door...

it's a harsh reality but she is cool with it and it goes both way's... and it's been 9 years... so it must work...

 

[1evilregal]

it's not all that bad...my wife has kept me around for going on 22 years now, and we dated for 1 1/2 years before that. It's a give and take thing, that mostly gives back.crappycutlass was right on point- if you get one that realley cares back, she won't run you and you won't run her.

it does get fustrating at times, but when I look back over the years, there's more good than bad.

when you meet the right woman, your outlook will change...enjoy yourself until then! 😀

 

[gs dewd]

It all depends on who you marry. You need to find the right one that shares the same interest as you. And don't ever think you will change someone it will never work and they end up hating you in the end. My lovely wife shares my interest as I share hers. It's a fifty fifty deal. You can't go into it thinking it's all about you. My wife and me have three children together. A 4 yr old and 4 month old twins. Now babies can be a handful at times and you do lose some of your time but in the long run it is far worth it. I don't have near the time I use to have to work on my car but the way I am the lengthed time to complete the project is just fine. My last project car I rushed through and finshed it really quick then got bored with it and sold it. This cutlass is going to take sometime which is just fine with me. No as far as finding someone with the same interest my wife decided she wanted to get into the car show, cruise in scene so we went and bought her a damn near perfect conditioned low milage 1984 MCSS. I will be posting pics of it soon. I drove the car when we went and looked at it. She got to drive it home and she fell in love. So as I said if you find the right one you can balance your life and be perfectly happy with doing it.

 

[gs dewd]

Also with being married I have that nice little benifit of being able to sleep next to a warm little body everynight. And you have that life long partner that beleive it or not will be able to do more for you then a friend or even family members at times. I know there has been times that my wife seemed to be the only one there for me when I needed someone the most. It just doesn't get much better.