Okay - this makes sense. Normally the taper on the pitman arm would hold the stud, allowing the nut to be unthreaded. Since this is all worn, there's no 'grab' and the stud & nut spin together. prying between the arm and center link presses against the nut & doesn't help. Clamping the arm against the center link should help, but it's too worn to grab. I could try grinding a groove in the top of the stud to hold with a screwdriver, or I could replace the whole center link along with the pitman arm (which I'd need to do anyway if I drilled through the center link).
I needed to do this one simple thing to get the car to pass inspection. Cripes!
Thanks...