i guess i dont see how a header with larger primarys are going to hurt my performance??
look at it this way; take a large tube and blow through it, feel how fast the air comes out. now try it with a small tube. the faster flow of the small tube also creates a suction effect in the same tube and in the others. this helps evacuate the exhaust from the other cylinders. obviously on a full race engine at 9000rpm there is no time for scavenging to take effect, so they use very large tubes and a short exhaust.
i forget all the differences between the styles of exhaust, but i believe that equal length headers work fully at a relatively narrow rpm band, while unequal length headers work over a broader range. tri-y's are supposed to be the best at scavenging at multiple ranges.
even though you're not a speed freak you will enjoy the benefits of properly sized primaries and collectors, whatever exhaust you choose.