This describes how to measure very well. The confusing part of this for how it pertains to you is the 6 bolt vs 3 bolt converter. He’s installing a 6 pad converter made for a 6 bolt flexplate. Everything 6 bolt is for using a stock 4l80 6 bolt flexplate that the flexplate has a built in crank spacer. That allows for a shorter pilot on the converter. Most aftermarket converters use a 3 bolt pattern and are designed for a standard dished 3 bolt flexplate - the converter pilot will be longer to accommodate for both the flexplate dish and lack of spacer on the flexplate.
You haven’t posted a pic of your converter showing the pilot length- I’m guessing it’s longer than the converter that Jake has mounted in the transmission in the video. If you have a short pilot on your converter, then the pilot spacer you received with the flexplate will be needed.
If I’ve made this more confusing, then send me a PM.