I've been on the Parent end of a near death experience. I got the call every Parent dreads in the spring of 1999. I could write a book about it, short story, Son and 3 friends went to an Indians game, my Son was sleeping in the rear-seat drivers side. Car went down into median, spun, hit a tree backwards his side. Life flight to Cleveland Metro (the place you want to go for brain surgery in NE Ohio) 21 days in Intensive Surgical Care, then rehab. They have 2 Neurological Surgeons at all times. The first one came in and gave a talk, without saying much. I was in shock. Next Surgeon came in said about the same. I followed him out into the hall, I said, "no bull sh*t, just a father to a Surgeon, is he going to make it?" He said, "if it was you or me, No, but he's young and strong (he was 22) and youth means everything. If he can make it through the next 24 hours, that's the key."
I kept that info to myself. About 32 hours later, the Surgeon came in and checked him. I was across the bed with my wife. He looked over at me and said, "Dad, he's doing so much better today!" That was the greatest thing I've ever heard.
Short story, he doesn't remember this accident/hospital stay, he was in the 2% that make a complete recovery.
All that saying but he is changed. The only way I can explain it is. Two Brothers buy identical cars new, same care everything. At 40K miles, they trade cars. A car guy would notice everything that is different. The same for my Son. He looks the same but he's different. We were extremely close before and during the recovery but after not like before but that's okay. He's doing well and finally married to a beautiful younger Lady and they have 2 Sons. There both Professional people and everything is good.
I always had a feeling something would happen to him and I was a very protective father of both my Children but him especially. I swear, I always knew I'd get a call. Life goes by fast, enjoy it.