No, you can't "let" the one on the can be the HI because that is the LO side of the system. The HI side is in the plumbing locations I outline in my previous post.
In this pic, you have to install a HI SIDE port somewhere in the location of the RED ARROWS, that is between COMPRESSOR to CONDENSOR or CONDENSOR to ORIFICE (inlet to EVAPORATOR). So if your making a hose that goes from the CONDENSOR to the ORIFICE tube, get the same fitting you posted from eBAY, just find it for the HI SIDE port as they are different sizes.
No need to apologize, AC systems are not super complicated but I'm thinking that if you're not sure about the basic fundamentals it might really be something you try and locate a local AC specialty shop for, and have them re-plumb the system for you. You'll probably save yourself a lot of frustration as you seem to have a lot of other things going on with you build to sort out. Let an local expert help you with the AC at this point, or after you've done all the plumbing/hoses which is the bulk of the manual work.
HTH
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