WAY, WAY OFF-TOPIC: Just had it out with Mother-In-Law

[CaliWagon83]

I apologize in advance if this oversteps forum rules, and if you have to lock or remove, do what you have to do. I’ll cut to the chase. I just kind of had it out with my mother-in-law. TBH, we’ve kind of had a civil but strained relationship in the 13 years I’ve been married.

She made a comment a few weeks ago when my wife and I were having dinner with her and my father-in-law, and she just blurted out of nowhere, “you don’t care about the house.”

I confronted her about it this afternoon. I tried to be calm and gracious toward her, but she felt like picking a fight, so I’m like “Fine. I see how it’s going to be.”

During the course of the conversation, it came out that she thought since I got the wagon, I’ve been obsessed with the car (in her opinion) and I’ve neglected the house. I beg to differ. I basically told her it was none of her business, and that I’ve been financially responsible, and feel I’ve been a good husband to her daughter. She admitted I have never come to them asking for money.

Anyway...There was a lot more that was said, but I feel justified in saying what I did, and tried to do it respectfully. That she decided not to reply in kind is not my problem. </rant>

 

[motorheadmike]

 

[Gwarren79]

Should have asked her out instead?



/s

 

[pagrunt]

It's good to vent somewhere about in-laws. I've been fighting with my sister-in-law & her husband for almost a year over us buying the '14 Silverado to replace the '08 that she kept nagging me on getting rid of in the first place. I just quit talking to them, makes things more peaceful & lets them look like asses trying to start things when I'll just get up & leave.

 

[CaliWagon83]

Gwarren79, I tried asking her to meet me at a neutral, off-site location, but she said she was “too tired” and “just come on over.” That was probably my first mistake.

But whatever. I have no regrets about what I said. It needed to be said, and if nothing else, I think there are more clearly defined boundaries between what I consider appropriate involvement in my marriage and household.

 

[bob64]

Until you have to have the cops remove her from your house on Xmas day you got nothing to worry about!!

Inlaws Grrrrr!!

 

[DRIVEN]

Mine is toothless, jobless, penniless, and homeless. Also a pillhead hoarder. She's in no position to criticize any of my life decisions. We see each other about once a year. I'm polite but just prefer to make myself scarce when she visits. I've made it 110% clear that she will never, ever move into my house -- not even temporarily.
My wife's step mom is a little annoying but mostly okay. Her dad is cool. I only see them about once a year too.

 

[83beater]

I'm just here for the comments hahaha

 

[Ribbedroof]

Sorry to hear that.

I'm blessed that my in-laws are great to deal with/be around. Her dad is a character, but a good guy

I have a better relationship with her mother than my own, especially since my dad passed away.

 

[CaliWagon83]

You are so fortunate, Brian. Unfortunately, my MIL is just by nature an anxious, reactive, and bitter, angry person. Not much I can do about that.