A parent thanked me on Tuesday

[pontiacgp]

I wonder what precipitated the incident and I don't mean 5 minutes beforehand. There is two sides to a story but since the "authority" challenged the boy instead of trying to look at the big picture that opportunity is lost. I think it would be better to reason with the kids so they understand what their actions can cause. Instead the boy ostracized but depending on what led up to the bra snap he may have felt justified in doing what he did.

 

[fleming442]

That crazy ginger girl might have given the boy a wedgie the day before and deserved retaliation..... double standard!!!

 

[melloelky]

i can sympathize with the situation,i can never unhook those things...

 

[TURNA]

I guess this is why colleges have cry closets and stuffed animal rooms now?

Situations like this build character

There not one guy here that didnt pull a girls hair , snap a bra or do something else along those lines when in school.

And if you didnt, then I feel sorry for you because you must have had a pathetic childhood


Just creating a bunch of mindless drones.

 

[Wagonman100]

While I certainly feel that something should have been done, I feel that they went way overboard in the punishment. First of all, yes, they should have discussed the situation with both parties to find out why it was done. It may have been infatuation, it may have been retaliation. Kids do need to learn there are consequences for their actions. And that a consequence does not have to mean something bad. A good consequence can come from a good deed and bad ones from misbehaving. I feel that maybe he should have gotten detention or served some community service. Suspension and possible sexual assault charges? Never.

Funny that I see parents making all kinds of excuses for why something isn’t their kids fault, kids can’t be spanked anymore as a form of discipline and receive very little in the way of discipline by any other means anymore. But when something that is pretty innocuous such as this occurs, they are punished too severely.

And ck80 has voiced what I have felt for ages. Kids are not taught how to deal with adversity these days. They don’t keep score, everyone gets a trophy and making a child feel bad is a capital offense. Then when something bad happens to them when they are older they don’t know how to deal with it. That is the reason that suicides are rising and mass shootings are far more prevalent. Life ain’t fair and you need to learn that at a young age.

I remember when I was in 8th grade a girl pulled down a boys shorts on a track and field day and his underwear came down part way with them. No one really saw anything and the boy suffered a moment of embarrassment and we laughed about it, including the boy whose shorts got pulled down. Fast forward a month or so and we had a retreat where they had a pool. We were in our bathing suits and the boy whose shorts got pulled down tugged at the string holding up the top of the one piece bathing suit of the girl who pulled his shorts down. He didn’t really mean for anything to happen, but her top popped loose and folded down over her crossed arms and exposed her breasts. She had fairly large breasts for 8th grade. She pulled up her top and retied it and again we all laughed and she suffered some embarrassment. It was tit for tat (pun intended). No one got any discipline (though maybe she should have after the shorts incident and maybe wouldn’t have gone through the bathing suit incident) and no one got charged with a crime.

 

[pagrunt]

I'm not a professional on this subject but might of been on TV but this is my view on how it could of been delt with:
1. Send the offender to the principal to see why it happened, call parents to come in to talk about it,
2. Contacted the parents of the offeneded student to have a sit down in front of principal, offeneded, offender & parents,
3. Go over what happened, why, what might/could of happened before, issues between the offender/offended, post event actions between the two,
4. Set up In-School suspension, an involed activity to teach a lesson for either the offender or both depended on what lead up to what happened,
5. Follow up to ensure issue is taken care of, additional activities needed, or a higher level of actio needed.
From my point of view I'd say hormones might of been the driver cause the kid is not smart enough to flirt or even strike up a conversation to see what could happen between the two.
As Red Forman would say:

 

[TURNA]

Chic should have turned around and slapped him if she didnt like it.

Stop relying for other people to solve your "problems"

 

[69hurstolds]

When do kids start getting sexual misconduct lessons and training in what's appropriate? If you're not teaching someone what is or isn't allowed, you only set people up for failure down the road. Telling someone they broke the rules without them knowing the rules is certainly unfair. Kids do not inherently know what is and is not appropriate when engaging in what they may think is teasing/prankish.

 

[fleming442]

Just operate on the assumption that NOTHING is appropriate anymore, and everyone is a sissy-nanny these days. Be pleasantly surprised if something reaches "down" to your level of "normal". It's much easier than being shocked and appalled all the time.

 

[TURNA]

When do kids start getting sexual misconduct lessons and training in what's appropriate? If you're not teaching someone what is or isn't allowed, you only set people up for failure down the road. Telling someone they broke the rules without them knowing the rules is certainly unfair. Kids do not inherently know what is and is not appropriate when engaging in what they may think is teasing/prankish.

Thats called morals

Comes from responsible parents/family and church

Things that dont exist anymore