If necessary, yes. Let's not forget the girl's trauma in all this. The staff did what they saw was the right thing to do and it seems both parents, while not pleased it happened, are ok with how it's been handled. This is very important aspect as well. No room to be ham-handed in any of these sorts of issues. A different world we live in now.
I'm not sure...
OP first stated:
Mom of the male student that did this,she was glad I wrote him up for it.He was talked to about it,said he could of been in more trouble called sexual assault charges.
That implies, to me, that the parent of the offender thinks it is handled at a school level and NOT knowing or endorsing of the outcome of police charges being pursued, which is stated here:
Principal did have the cops called too,sexual assault charges being investigated now
Sounds to me like parent is glad student was corrected, with the understanding that the corrections were school discipline, NOT the later referral of charges from the principal.
If he'd have done it in the real world, he'd have gone to court for it, why should school be any different? If it was your daughter would you not be livid? Anymore most schools have a school resource officer in the school at all times, so when there is a verified incident like this one, file a report with the local police and have them set a date at the magistrate for the offender.
Juvenile records are expunged so it's not like it sticks with him for life if it's a dumb mistake but it needs to be documented with the courts in case it happens again and it turns out that it wasn't just a dumb mistake. A slap on the wrist like writing a paper or being sent to the principal's office doesn't teach anyone anything. Consequences need to be real. When the kid has to pay a fine or do 30 hours of community service for it, I think they'll be a lot less likely to do the same thing again than if they just half assed a paper about why they were sorry.
I graduated from high school not that long ago, and I still have one sibling who is a junior, and I have a sister who is a high school English teacher. I'm not an expert but I'd say I have some relevant experience. With suicides among student aged kids skyrocketing, every incident of harassment or bullying needs to be taken seriously.
School is a lot different than it was 20, 15, even 10 years ago.
Well, lets see here...
1) Talk about story of crying wolf here... in the real world, snapping an article of clothing should, at best, be considered an incident of battery, which again, I think would also be a mockery of the justice system. When you levy ham handed heavy penalties for ridiculously minor infractions, you actually dilute the effect for major transgressions and actually harm the deterrence aspect for more serious issues - not to mention take away resources that are scarce in dealing with serious problems.
"Oh, we're sorry the suspect arrested on a homicide count locked in jail has to wait 3 years for his bail hearing, we just HAD to tie up the court room with 2500 cases of hearings for bra-snappers..."
"Oh, we're sorry we can't process and follow up RAPE KITS, but we need to investigate the BRA SNAPPER."
2) if it was my daughter, no, I would NOT be livid. A day or two of in school suspension and make them do an assignment they will hate to drive the point home. No need to make an federal case out of it. It was not molestation where they lifted a shirt and fondled her against her will - now THAT is sexual assault.
3) I think you miss the statement they're investigating it as SEXUAL ASSAULT. that isn't go before a magistrate, do some community service type issue. THAT is "register as offender, can't get certain jobs, can't go certain places FOR LIFE" territory. Also, if the offender rolls become known as a place filled with exceedingly petty offenses, it waters down the seriousness of the purpose for which they were created.
4) sex crimes aren't juvenile-sealed expunged material.
5) sex crimes, as noted, aren't do your community service and get scared by the judge material either. Ok, school resource officer makes you go to court for theft instead of giving back a Walkman and being suspended a day. Got it . That's a lot different than talking about calling for a SEX CRIME investigation that were talking here.
6) one way to read the increase of suicide is to say kids are over protected and under exposed to adversity these days, and when encountering it, cannot handle it due to lack of preparation - whether it's teasing, bullying, life going wrong, or even something as stupid as when a semi local nationally recognized college, Emory University, had protests and students claims they felt "physical pain" when the college Republicans wrote "Trump 2016" in chalk, even though the college democrats wrote "Hillary 2016" all over the place. Excessive insulation causes more problems than it protects from, kind of like putting kits in a literal plastic bubble to protect from bacteria and viruses means certain death when you let them out. They need innoculation.
7) for what it's worth, I'm not an expert but I have some experience - I work in the legal system, wife teaches, mom teaches, father in law teaches, 3 uncles teach, 2 cousins teach, nor to mention the various friends and family friends who are educators. So yeah, we can all claim those connections.
Still. Became utterly ridiculous the minute THAT became worthy of investigation, if not charging, of a sex crime.
