Yeah, grease will work. But how do you know how many shims to use? The crush collar is a collapsible spacer that can be described as an adjustable washer. As the pinion nut gets turned in, the collar crushes, and the pre-load on the bearing can not become less. The pre-load is a bit hard to grasp. Imagine the gears being held in suspension, so tightly that even the motor's power can't deflect them out of position. The purpose of this is so that the gears relationship does not change- ever. The bearings are designed to be loaded that way and still run quietly. The bearings will wear eventually, but with proper lubrication, that will take many thousands of miles. And to account for that, the used bearings and gears pre-load is slightly less. So the pre-load on the carrier and the pinion is critical for proper operation. Jared, did you change bearing races? You need to really bang them in with a soft drift so they are seated. Did you have the brakes totally backed off?