WAY, WAY OFF-TOPIC: Just had it out with Mother-In-Law

[Injectedcutty]

In laws are a different breed Ed, I feel your pain! For the most part I have it REALLY good....they pick our kids up from school and cook them dinner 4 days/week. They love doing it, and it allows my wife and I to work a little later.
My FIL is super chill and we are alot alike, guess that's one of the reasons the wife married me.
My MIL, well, she has her days. I don't F'n get it, she pushes and pokes and prods until I put her in her place, but then it's my fault for standing up to her and she goes on a 3 day hiatus hiding in her room like a kid and sh*t!!!!!
Not to mention when she over medicates intentionally, and my 8yr old goes "dad, meme is awful sleepy today!" My FIL just shakes his head b/c he doesn't feel like starting a war either.

My wife and I will be married 10 years a month from now, and we've had to grow alot to learn how to deal with her mom. We know if we don't wanna deal with her BS, we just piss her off....usually buys us a week or so lol!!!!
My parents don't bother us, and I have to get them to stop by to see their grandkids, but that's another story for another day from the dysfunctional family of InjectedCutty.

 

[pagrunt]

Maybe my grandfather on my dad's side had it right. When he retired from the Navy out of San Diego back around '70 he moved with my step-grandmother to Port Orchard, Wa. Might of been for work but kept them away from any relatives from either family except my great-grandparents who he moved out there. Never did get to go visit, didn't meet him until I was 15 when he came back to Pittsburgh to visit. But he was very cool, had a '87 Cutlass Supreme the (in my eyes) acted like a 442.
Think some of the best family relations is distance. At times I wish we didn't buy a house so close to her family.

 

[CaliWagon83]

Well, “the talk” was long overdue. Wish I would have done it a long time ago. But I finally got tired of being Mr. Nice Guy, and just taking her $#!+.

The height of it is she tried to lay the “Well, I’m not going to be around forever” BS on me. I was just thinking to myself, “Nice try, your guilt manipulation isn’t working on me.” I know this sounds awful, but truthfully, my life will probably be more peaceful when she’s gone.

 

[DRIVEN]

In the long run she may actually respect you more for standing up. She'll never admit that, but you might not be on the recieving end of so many pointed comments.

 

[CaliWagon83]

In the long run she may actually respect you more for standing up. She'll never admit that, but you might not be on the recieving end of so many pointed comments.

Well, if she does, she now knows in no uncertain terms, I’m not going to just smile and take it anymore. I feel both my wife and my MIL respect me more now.

 

[Bonnewagon]

I am married 45 years. I heard at 50 years you get your freedom. I can't wait. That is true, right guys? Guys?

 

[DRIVEN]

Let me know. I've got another 28 to go.

 

[fleming442]

I got 35 to go unless she cuts it short for me.

 

[Bonnewagon]

My kids get mad when I say that if I had murdered her I would have gotten 25 years and been free 20 years already. Instead I married her and got LIFE with no parole?

 

[1evilregal]

I count myself as lucky. I married a German girl while i was stationed over there, and her parents and step-father were great people and welcomed me into the family. her dad often said that I was the son that he never had (he had 5), and all her brothers and I got along great. I guess since they're all over there is why we've had good relationships. her sister, on the other hand, used to pretty close to me and my wife, until she met her husband. I considered him a friend as well, until we started doing better financially, and they started going backwards... we no longer talk to them, and they've even turned their kids against us. It breaks my heart that my SIL and their kids are the only blood relatives that my wife has here (and they live in the same area), and we both no longer want anything to do with them... my wife finally had it out one day with the oldest daughter, and she was the last contact we had with them....

I hope that the situation smooths out, and the MIL realizes that it's you and your wife's lives now, and you aren't going to take her crap. Good luck to you.