UPDATE:
I think I found one possibility why my oil runs so hot: the oil filter. It's FRAM PH30, theoretically a correct filter for my car, but its a small one. A bigger model seems to be in order. How I concluded this? Well, I helped my Dad to do some maintenance on his plane (air cooled piston-engine, single). apparently, just because the filter fits on the threads doesn't mean its rated for the pressure given by the pump. in a plane, an oil filter that is too small will heat up the oil by its restrictif flow, that's why for airplanes, the filters have a pressure/volume rating which must be observed.
unfortunately, most oilfilters for car engines don't. i pulled the small fram now and will install the larger one i bought today. what baffled me is that the oil openings are larger compared to the fram. we will see if it helps with the temperatures. an oil change was anyways needed...