Try with a good quality Fog Lamp relay 30A. The reason I say this is because it is designed to stay on. Some of the relays are not designed to carry the load and stay on for long term. And they will fail quickly. And use bigger wire. It's getting hot so you already know it's in an over load condition. If that's not enough you can also use the Ford starter relay from something like 1970 F150 or V8 Sedan, Thunderbird etc...
Wire through an OP switch. This way it will energize once oil pressure is at 5 - 7 psi or more, shuts down with engine off (no oil pressure).